I am all about practicing proper etiquette online. I am also all about being truthful. Somewhere in between I find it can get a little blurry.
Trolls
There has been much written about “trolls” – the Wikipedia definition of a troll is as follows:
In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory,[2] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[3] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.
I have yet to see any trolls on this blog (hope I didn’t just jinx it), but I find the above description to be a little subjective. “Extraneous or off-topic messages” intended to provoke are obviously inappropriate, but I wonder about the “inflammatory” messages. Is posting a different opinion automatically a bad thing as long as you aren’t being mean or blatantly offensive? Certainly people could view that as inflammatory, but can’t debate be healthy as opposed to everyone just agreeing and patting each other on the back? Besides, intent is hard to measure and someone could get upset and have an emotional response even though no offense was intended or expected… People blog, post, and tweet expecting and hoping for responses, so shouldn’t they be prepared for different viewpoints? It reminds me of a scene in Pulp Fiction where Mia Wallace and Vincent Vega are having dinner at Jack Rabbit Slim’s (you can actually read the entire script here– pretty cool):
VINCENT
Actually, there's something I've
wanted to ask you about, but you
seem like a nice person, and I
didn't want to offend you.
MIA
Oooohhhh, this doesn't sound like
mindless, boring, getting-to-know-
you chit-chat. This sounds like
you actually have something to say.
VINCENT
Only if you promise not to get
offended.
MIA
You can't promise something like
that. I have no idea what you're
gonna ask. You could ask me what
you're gonna ask me, and my natural
response could be to be offended.
Then, through no fault of my own, I
woulda broken my promise.
Who is really the troll?
As far as I’m concerned just follow a few rules and use discretion and you should generally be okay. I’ve gotten better at this as I’ve gotten older – I’ve grown up (a little) and owning a business that is really a people business has given me new and varied perspectives. Besides, representing a brand online forces you to exercise restraint and diplomacy.
1) Be nice to people
2) Choose your words carefully knowing that a typed message can be interpreted differently than when you say it out loud.
3) Be careful talking about religion or politics and maybe think twice about bringing it up at all in a public forum – strangers will likely attack you.
4) Remember 1,2, and 3 but – don’t be scared to share your thoughts. If someone attacks you for a thoughtful comment that doesn’t fall exactly into line with the opinion of the blogger and his/her minions then who is really the troll? A blogger who bullies people into fear of reprisals if they disagree is a blogger you may not want to follow.
What about you? Have you been attacked by a troll? Have you been accused of being one?
You might recognize this little one. She and her family have been around the studio for quite awhile now. When we first met “E”‘s parents, they were having her big brother photographed for his newborn session. That was two years ago. Since that time, well, we’ve sort of adopted the S family. Or they adopted us. When we found out that E’s mom was pregnant again, she gave us the ultimate compliment. Aside from asking us to photograph her belly (which currently graces the inside of our current brochure!), and the newborn session of the new baby to be…. She told us that she and her husband J wanted US to be the GODPARENTS of their newest family member! Of course, Ally cried, and we said yes!
